Stop feeling sorry for yourself

It is very easy to get down, and think of all the things that you should be doing, that you should have, what has gone wrong, and just feel sorry for yourself. But what good does this do? What does feeling sorry for yourself do for you? Nothing! It just makes you feel worse. I've had a hard time lately to battle my mind, and not let it get the best of me. I've done some research to find out what the cause of people feeling sorry for themselves is, and I have found that it is the feeling of entitlement. Feeling that you should be in a better place than you are right now. Feeling like you deserve more than what you have been given. This mindset is very easy to get into. You might find yourself in a hard situation, and ask why? Why me? I did nothing to deserve this! While that may be true, it doesn't give you the right to feel sorry for yourself. I saw a video just recently that was a visual representation of entitlement. The man in charge asked a group of college aged kids stand on a line, they were racing for a hundred dollar bill. He asked the kids to take three steps forward for every statement that didn't apply to them. He then made statements that were only related to the parents. I've attached the video below, please take time to watch it.

This video ties into my post because when you don't understand the privileges that you have it is easier to feel sorry for yourself, or feel like you deserve more than you're actually getting. In reality, you were born into this world deserving nothing. Mike Palumbo mentions this when he is talking about the corporate world. He says that you can't be feel entitled and become successful. You have to know that you have to earn what you get, and be prepared to work for it, even if you were born into a successful family with a successful business, you will get fired if you don't do your job, and earn the place you are in. This concept goes way further than the corporate world. This may happen in your social groups. You might lose a lot of friends, and think, why me? I don't deserve this, which is the mindset that will get you into trouble. You have to humble yourself and understand what really happened. This probably won't get you your friends back, however it will make you feel better, and you will own up to anything you did rather than blaming everyone else. You will then realize that you don't deserve as much as you think you do. It may not make sense now, but this will make you a better, and happier person if you realize that you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, and earn what you get, and be grateful for what you don't have to work for. 

With the beginning of 2018, it is the perfect time to start working for everything you have, and being grateful! It'll make your year better for not only you, but everyone around you.